Monday, July 14, 2014
A Week of Busy
As a family, we have a pretty great evening rhythm. Family dinner each night, after dinner walks, a little play time for Reece before his bath with daddy, a bedtime snack, and then reading and snuggles with me, before he falls asleep. We like this rhythm, and it works for our family. Two years ago, when Reece should have started school, the few daytime programs we participated in Reece was now too old for, or they were moved to the evening, as the children were in school during the day. At that time, Justin and I made the decision that our evening family time was more important than running around to activities, so we stopped our participation in them.
Fast forward to this summer, and swimming lessons. We were lucky enough to find a lovely young lady who was teaching swimming in her family's backyard pool last summer. We signed Reece up for a week of lessons at 10am, every morning. It was perfect. Reece clicked with his instructor, and it fit perfectly into our days. This spring we received a letter letting us know she was once again offering swimming lessons, but they would be in the evening as she had secured a full time summer position working during the day.
Justin and I talked it out. The pros...Reece knows and loves her, her home is pretty close, in rural terms, and I don't have to spend a lot of time searching out a new instructor. The cons...a disruption in our evening family rhythm. It is only a week, I said, and with that, we did it. We signed him up for the week, swimming each night at 5:30pm, the time we usually eat dinner.
What a week! We moved dinner to 4:15pm, I managed to put an easy meal on the table each night and have it cleaned up before we left at 5pm. We made it to swimming and back home again by 6:30pm, which was perfect timing for a short play before the start of our usual bedtime routine. But even with making it all happen it still felt so very rushed and busy. If you know me in person, you know I don't do busy, in fact, as a family, we don't do busy. We like the slow lane, and if we ever needed proof, last week was it.
Don't get me wrong, I thoroughly enjoyed being at the pool with Reece, watching his confidence grow in the water, and doing a little knitting at the same time, but the rush, and busy it added to our evenings was not fun. And it definitely made being mindful and present much harder.
I am glad we did the lessons, Reece improved so much in those five days last week, but I am also glad that we return to our rhythm this week, where we can sink into the evening, and enjoy our time together. The evening activities can wait a few more years.