Monday, July 4, 2016

Reflecting


Yesterday marked nine months since my marriage ended, and while I didn't mark the occasion in any way, I did take a few moments to reflect. The last nine months have definitely been challenging....finding my way as a single homeschooling mama, figuring out the best way to run my little homestead on my own, determining how best to earn an income and still live the life that feels right and authentic for me, and so much more. It has stretched me, forced me to think outside the box, and in some ways, allowed me to become more of the person I want to be.


Remaining true to who I am in all of this has been important to me. This kind of thing can make you angry, bitter and resentful, and it would be easy to fall into those feelings and emotions, but they don't serve a purpose, at least not for me. Yes, in those initial days I can whole-heartedly say I moved through those emotions, but the key was I moved through them. I didn't let them become part of me. Instead I acknowledged them, let them sit with me for a bit and then released them. That process allowed me to move forward from a place of calm and peace, it allowed me to see a new path ahead, and it allowed me to set new goals for the future. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't an easy process, and there were many days I questioned the path ahead, and my ability to carve out a life for Reece and I that would hold true to who I am, but I can stand here now, and say I am doing it. Even with all the ups and downs, and the negative cloud that at times hung over my head, I remained positive, I chose to see the good in my life, and I offered gratitude every single day for the simple things in my life that were going right. Because even in the darkest days there was always something to be grateful for.


Reflection has been a big part of the last nine months, and I am sure it will continue to be as I move forward. Life is full of lessons, and in reflection, I am finding my lessons in all of this. Some of those lessons have been easier than others, but they have all helped me grow into a stronger, happier and more content person today. In essence, they have brought me to this moment right now, a moment in which life is moving forward, with me in control, and that feels pretty darn good.

Life is never easy, it is an adventure of the most daring kind. There will always be obstacles to overcome, but we can, and will get through it. It isn't always pretty, as I have discovered, but we get through it, one step at a time.

29 comments:

  1. You are simply amazing. I admire your strength and the fact that you share it all here. Wishing you well!

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    1. Thank you Rosemarie, for your kind words and support through all of this. xo

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  2. I admire you so much, Kim! Thanks so much for sharing your journey. Sending lots of love!
    xoxo

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  3. You are so right dear friend and you have courage too. The courage to take things with an open heart and in such a way they are always nourishing ... I wish you the best.
    Tenderness, xo

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    1. Oh Chantall, thank you for your kind and thoughtful words. They mean a lot my friend. xo

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  4. You are so incredible, my friend! I am so proud of you for your strength and determination to learn and grow from it! You continue to impress and inspire me! It's truly an honor to know you! xo

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    1. Aw, thank you Shel. I am so happy to call you friend. xo

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  5. Been thinking of you lots lately! You are amazing!

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    1. Thanks Taryn. You are never far from my thoughts either. Hugs to you. xo

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  6. I'm so glad you're feeling good and that life is moving ahead for you in a positive and fulfilling direction.

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  7. xoxo I can feel your strength! I'm so happy to know you and to share in your journey.

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    1. Aw, thanks my friend. I am so happy the blog world has brought us together, and I am so grateful for the support you have provided through all of this. xo

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  8. You are full of the best kind of strength and courage, the kind that makes the best of life.

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    1. Thank you Sally, that means a lot coming from you my friend. xo

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  9. One step at a time seems to have brought you to a very good place! You have so much courage and strength to have kept true to what you value most and it's lovely watching it come good :)

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    1. Yes, it totally has :) Thank you Carie, for your kind and sweet comment. xo

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  10. you are a beauty to behold. You are wise beyond your years and although I'm older than you (ahem) I feel like I've learned a life lesson. You remind me to stay in the moment and believe that I choose to have my thoughts and feelings! Wishing you the very best but I think you already have the very best - contentment and peace :)

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    1. Aw, Karen you are gonna make me cry. Thank you. xo

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  11. My life has been a bit upside down these days and I have not been able to visit my friends as I like, but I woke up this morning thinking of you and knew I need to visit. I read your words, then read them again...Kim, thank you! My soul needed you today and He knew it. Much love and a big hug to you my dear and Reece too! XO

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    1. Oh Tracey, I am so sorry that life has been a bit upside down for you. I am happy to hear my words brought a little light into your day. Hang in there my friend, deep breathes. xoxo

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  12. Just stopping by for the first time in a long while--thanks for visiting my spot today! I've missed seeing yours, and it looks as blooming and growing as ever. Tending your heart and keeping its ground soft and pliable is so important, especially in times when bitterness and resentment want to creep in--and it looks like you're doing that. I pray you find your way with lots of grace.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Mia, so nice to see you here. And thank you for your very kind comment. xo

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  13. 9 months, wow. There is definitely something to the 9 month cycle and reflection. Again, as I've said before :) you are so inspirational and I so appreciate your honesty.

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    1. It is amazing, eh? Aw, thanks my friend.

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  14. Wow... I admire your courage and strength. You are amazing. I'm encouraged and inspired by these words to continue to work through and reflect on the challenges that have been facing me lately. Thank you.

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    1. Thanks Elisa, it hasn't been an easy nine months, but I made it, and I feel confident moving forward, and that's feels awesome! All the best to you as you move through the next few months. Sending you lots of love and light. xo

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